An old song says that „The Internet is for Porn". The question is for whom porn is made for and what messages it sends, especially to young and developing people. Some say mainstream porn is the way it is because it makes more money. Is that true?

Platforms like Tumblr have become very important in the lives of everyone not interested in the narrow heterosexual mainstream idea of erotica and sex. This is where spaces developed to socially explore sexuality and establish a basic set of rules and values:

1. Consent and self-determination are key

2. Sex is a normal and welcome part of what it means to be human

3. Asexuality is valid

4. Honesty and fidelity in relationships are not always the same as monogamy

5. Queer love and sexuality is becoming increasingly normalized across the globe

6. People with disabilities have the same right to a healthy and self-determined sex-life as able-bodied people are

7. Sex work is work and is better protected by decriminalization than with restrictive laws

8. Sextech (for those who are not heterosexual men) is still in its infancy and waiting for investors to realize its massive potential

Nevertheless, organizations running social platforms are banning what they call „adult content“ to protect children and make communities "safer". But is using an umbrella-term that can mean anything from mainstream porn or queer sexual education helpful? Wording and classification have to become more precise and realistic. Changing current policies or establishing new platforms will make sexual content safer.

Elle Nerdinger shows what is already been done and what opportunities still lie ahead waiting to be taken. The demand for safe and accessible social sexual spaces is growing. Changing policies and how content is classified will provide safety and business opportunities especially for women and marginalized people because they know their audience best.